So I have been single since earlier this year and finding someone who shares your same interests at my age is hard. I'm not much on the bar scene and my life revolves around work and my son, so it makes it hard to meet anyone. I have tried online dating sites on and off the last few years, with only one long term relationship coming from that experience. It's quite tricky to find a guy who is genuinely looking for someone special in their life. Most are there for someone special for the night, not life. Truthfully when I scan a guy's profile I go straight to their music preference section. I think music says a lot about a person and I also want to share similar music tastes. If I see that they only listen to country music or only list artists in the top of the charts I will pass. Country music is something I have never been able to get into and doesn't interests me at all. Okay..no my ears would bleed if I had to listen to it. Since I filter possible connections via their musical tastes, does that prevent me from finding true love or is this filed under the deal breakers category? When I was younger I wouldn't even bother with anyone who didn't like the same music as I did. To me that's about as personal as your religious or political beliefs. I remember one time my Step-Dad trying to set me up with a guy and I looked at his MySpace profile and he listed crappy rap music. Don't get me wrong, I do like some rap music. Mostly when rap was real and had more substance. Coming from a small town it was hard to find someone who had similar music tastes. You just don't see some cute guy walking down the street with a Bauhaus or Joy Division shirt. There for awhile I didn't really put musical preference as a top priority when dating someone. It was nice if they shared some of my music tastes, but it wasn't a requirement. I had just gotten to a point where I was tired of trying to find that someone with similar tastes, so I just put that on the back burner. After being in a long relationship I realized that yes, music preference is something important to me. I think there's nothing better than sharing the music you love with someone. I also think that concerts can be as intimate as sex. Sharing that energy and love of the music is something that instantly connects you and drowns you with a warm feeling within. I can still remember going to see Nine Inch Nails with David Bowie when I was was a teen with my then boyfriend. I had made up a story about sleeping a a friend's house and we drove to Cleveland to see them. I cringe at the thought of my son doing that one day, but it was an experience and something I'll always remember. I did join an online music site that is about meeting people with similar music tastes and somewhat a dating site. I think this is a great idea, but yet again the only guys I found that had similar tastes were in England! It works best if you perhaps live in a bigger city I think. So the hopes are for one day to find someone who I can share music I love with and they can share their loved music. Those I think are the best relationships because you truly share all of your feelings, fears, and moments through music when the words are hard to convey.
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